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i really need an answer. how do you say good bye to someone you’ve loved for such a long time? someone whom you thought you’d spend the rest of your life with. someone you’ve grown up with, someone who has loved you so much. someone who gave his soul to you, who wept with you, stayed with you during your darkest moments. someone who’s always been there. who tolerated your idiosyncrasies, loved your crazy tendencies, held on to you during your foulest moods. someone who held your hand when you almost died in that dark hospital room. someone whose life revolves around you. someone who gave you the second chance. someone who’d do anything for you. someone who cannot live without you.
how do you tell him you’ll always care, but it’s time to let go. that you belong to a different world. that your dreams are far beyond what he can ever imagine, or even want for himself for that matter. how do you tell him that sometimes, love really isn’t enough for you. that you want more.
how can you break someone’s heart in the way that least hurts him? is there such a way? is it possible?
how can you diplomatically and with much grace tell someone it’s over. that you’ve moved on. that you are fickle, and worldly and free. that you are incapable of sustaining something that’s been fading for quite some time now.
how do you tell him it’s not his fault? that it’s yours.
how can you crush his dreams just like that? his dream of being with you? building a family with you?
how do you really say goodbye? because sooner or later it has to happen. he deserves the privilege of a proper farewell, to old times and to dreams, and the future. he deserves to at least hear it in person.
it is really dreadful. and it makes me so very sad. tell me, how can i say goodbye?
January 23rd, 2007 at 6:26 pm
every goodbye will always hurt, no matter what happens a wound is created and no amount of explanation, subtlety nor kind words will ever lessen such pain, just tell him the truth because it is atleast what he deserves, and in time the truth shall heal the wound created by such hurt
January 25th, 2007 at 12:58 pm
Saying goodbye is never easy. You both had feelings for each other at one point, and maybe you still do. The key is to do it maturely, without deliberate pain, so that you can both move on with your lives and find someone better suited for you. A relationship really needs two fully committed people, so if one of you doesn’t want to be in the relationship any more, it’s best for BOTH of you to end it. That’s the key message to get across.
good luck kaibigan….
January 27th, 2007 at 10:42 am
the moment i read your blog it pains me to know such a beautiful, and almost perfect relationship is over because of the different path you two have to take…be mature enough to settle things before it ruined your entire trust and confidence to each other,,,at least you know you are capable of loving and being loved like that…i know you will never stop loving him you just have to learn how to live witout him…and i have learned that too,,not that easy but i did..take care always..mwah..
February 1st, 2007 at 3:06 pm
ten years and engaged….i had to do it…..